Why Leaders Fail

By Otto Schmidt

We all know people who are or were great leaders who fell from grace. Human nature being what it is, with great success can come great failure. Here are some reasons why leaders fail:

Afraid to confront people or the issues at crucial times.
- Fear of consequences or reprisals, hesitancy to start conflict or confrontation, perceived weakness if decision is made, compromised or untrustworthy preparatory information.

Send unclear messages to people who work or follow him/her.
- Weak communication skills, ideas have not been formulated clearly at first, impulsivity.

Become isolated from others, secretive and unapproachable.
- Being at the top can be lonely, insulated and isolating especially if the leader loses trust in others or becomes overly self-protective and sensitive to criticism, insecurity because of awareness of having moved to a position of incompetence.

Become too idealistic and impractical. Ideas become unrealistic.
- Followers are usually brought into awareness after lengthy discussion and rehearsal. They need to be taken slowly and carefully to new destinations and levels of operation. Theory and practical application can get to be too far apart or both may not be well thought out in advance.

Communication is kept secretive from others but clear between select confidants.
- Favoritism, cronyism, elitism, and selfishness can destroy trust and lead to confrontation or upset.

Attempt to do too much in too short a time. Followers burn out or are overwhelmed.
- Everybody wants things done yesterday but it is well known that major changes in society can take up to 20 years to be reasonably accepted and people are comfortable with them. Aims, goals, and objectives may be do-able but also need integration time.

Stop listening to advisors and become more personally controlling.
- Some leaders become legends in their own minds. Their power may corrupt them. They become insecure and don't want to miss a thing and become micro-managers. Paranoia may also set in.

Secret private life is exposed and shows lack of ethics, morality, principles.
- Mistresses, wild living, criminal behavior or contacts, shady business deals, indiscretions.

Lose interest and/or control of the initial concepts or goals.
- Some people can only go so far. They are afraid of success and/or failure and stop at the peak of what they perceive to be all they need to do to achieve satisfaction.

Fail to bring key support into place in order to achieve goals.
- Some people do not want to or know how to delegate. They want to do it all themselves. Things do not move forward quickly enough or too quickly without proper support by expertise.

Make major mistakes in judgment or direction despite warnings.
- Arrogance, pride, selfishness, narcissism, greed, and other factors make the person believe he/she is invincible or infallible. There may be underlying feelings of insecurity. In some cases, watching others succeed, win or achieve fame causes a desire to have the same at almost any cost.

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Otto Schmidt, Education Consultant, speaker, author - "Accent on Essential Life Skills" - http://accentonskills.com/aelsbook.htm
Accent on Skills Consulting, Toronto, ON 416-226-2332 o.schmidt@accentonskills.com 
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Safe Driving Tips - Control Your Moods

I assume that you are a certified driver with a license. All you had to do to get your license was to prove you understood the rules of traffic and were capable of implementing them in real time.

After you have your license, driving is a chore, a duty or a means to get to an end. You have to get to your destination without causing other drivers problems by following the traffic rules. That never means you have to prove yourself day after day. That gets tedious, and a nervous driver can never be a good driver.

Enjoy the control you have over the car each time you drive and never let anyone's taunting or honking mess up your confidence. Stay calm and control your emotions. Be aware of all that is going around and keep alert all the time.

When you drive your car remember that you are not racing with other drivers. It is true that some individuals think they are racing in a formula 1 circuit. Ignore such individuals and if someone wants to surpass you let him or her to do it easily. Anyone who risks his life or even his rear mirror to arrive at his destination a few minutes earlier needs your compassion.

People who like to get a rise out of someone on the road do exist and it is never good to let them get the better of you. Remember that you are good enough. Remember also the goals you had before you ever noticed the other driver. Probably these goals were to go from point A to point B.

And yes, you can laugh at their stupidity when they rev up the engine or make a jackrabbit start at the next light...they will be the ones pulling out the dollar bills at the gas station more often, not you.

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How to Accept and Be Strong in Times of Disappointment

Unfortunately, we are not perfect. We have billions of people we can blame for our own shortcomings and failures. We do not get endless good times. When disappointment, failure or hopelessness attacks, we need to fight back. Here are some weapons:

How big is this problem, really? Don't sweat it if it is small.
Life is too short. The universe will continue to evolve. In the whole scheme of things in the entire universe, we are almost insignificant, yet we make big deals out of petty stuff.

Be humble.
Remember that if, some day, they discover the center of the universe you will probably not be in it. Even you have to experience failure or loss maybe for a long time but things will eventually change!! You just don't know when. Don't get so low and down that when things start going up again you won't be able to get up. You are not alone though. We will all secretly feel for you.

Discuss with somebody and get it out of your system. Purge.
Hearing yourself talk about difficulties sometimes throws new light on the problem. As well, if you talk about it long enough, you will find you get so bored of hearing yourself saying the same things over and over again that the problem becomes just a silly thing - at times.

Good and bad surprises are natural occurrances!
You will always have some form of life coming at you - good and bad. When you get lemons, learn to make lemonade! Both sunshine and rain helps flowers grow.

If you ask yourself: "Why me?", your honest response should be: "Why not me?"
It's your turn to use the gifts of talents, skills and abilities given to you to confront and solve your problem or issue. Would you wish your situation on anybody else? No. Then you deal with what you get and do it with your head high. Be dignified in doing your best.

Don't take a lot of things personally. View most things from a spectator point of view.
It helps you keep your cool when you distance yourself. It also helps you see things from a different perspective. It might not be as bad as you think. It's not your fault sometimes. Don't accept it and instead leave it with the other person to stew about. It's not being emotionless. It's accepting life the way it is.

Explore your feelings and hurts openly and honestly with yourself. Learn from them.
This is tough. Don't deny your feelings but go with them. Wallow through the misery and come out to the other shore. Next time is easier. Drive to a secluded spot in a large parking lot. Close the windows in your car, turn up the music, and then yell and scream anything and everything until you purge the hurt and other related feelings.

Take responsibility for being the cause and/or effect of disappointments in your life.
Admit your behaviour to yourself honestyl. Temper? Bubbling rage? Ready to blow? Looking for a fight? Can you say: "I got jealous, angry, greedy, vindictive, enraged or whatever and caused something to happen to me."

Change anger into feeling sorry for who/what disappointed you.
Feeling compassion is easier on the system. Forgiveness is for the giver, not the receiver. Letting go is healthy. It stops the formation of acids and toxins that ruin health. Forgiveness gets the person or event out of your head where he/she/it is preventing you from thinking effectively. Why waste your time being angry when the person isn't even there in front of you to receive it?

Negativity will always be there in life. Get used to it. Rise above it.
Sometimes not getting what we want is a stroke of luck! Toxic people can depress us and alter mood but we also have the choice of staying away from them or immunizing ourselves from their harmful effects.

Find something good that can possibly come from what may be the worst of situations or happenstances.
From great loss can come great strength. There is a saying that God doesn't give you more than you can handle. I beg to differ. Sometimes we get more than we can handle. That's the time to get others to help carry the load. About 7 billiion people were provided to you, from which the right one to help you is just waiting for the two of you to meet.

Do a reality check.
Are you just looking for trouble? Do you make silly, stupid, risky, dangerous decisions knowingly? If so, you take chances and not the potential loss. Too bad. That happens to the rest of us too!!

Have a positive attitude.
A little story emphasizes this point. For their birthday, twins were put in an empty room except for a big bucket of manure in the middle. One looked in, gave a scowl and walked away disgusted and mad. The other put on a big smile, started sneaking around, bending and bobbing to peek out of the windows, checking and listening at doors. When their parents entered, the one with the smile said gleefully, "Okay, I know there's a pony around here somewhere!!"

Contact me for professional development with a difference. I specialize in skills training. Participants WILL be more creative, perceptive, better communicators in the workshops I offer

Otto Schmidt, Education Consultant, speaker, author - "Accent on Essential Life Skills" - http://accentonskills.com/aelsbook.htm

Accent on Skills Consulting, Toronto, ON 416-226-2332 o.schmidt@accentonskills.com

Visit my website http://www.AccentonSkills.com for further information on booking custom-designed workshops for your team, employees, administrators involving some of 48 personal, empowerment skills